not to worry i figured it out
stupid faq harder to understand than ikea manual
Step #1
. /home/stulocal/bin/setup-env.sh
to load into profile
NB: space between . /home
Step #2
vncserver
to make connection
Step #3
cse.unsw.edu.au:x
connection in VNC, where x is port number provided
just putting it here in case i forgot again in the future