How does anyone find a decent significant other? (1 Viewer)
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yah, good luck! 
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Take a chance, give someone a chance and you may be surprised.
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heyyyy i was going to say the same thing!
also,
what the fuck is that shit.... unless i'm misinterpreting, you're basically saying people who don't want to be single should just settle for anyone for the sake of being in a relationship... and hope that it just works? uh no.
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heyyyy i was going to say the same thing!
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what the fuck is that shit.... unless i'm misinterpreting, you're basically saying people who don't want to be single should just settle for anyone for the sake of being in a relationship... and hope that it just works? uh no.
Not what I gathered...
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um yeah, it was not actually like, an internet dating thing. we didn't really like each other until we met.
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we've both said we're thinking long term so fingers crossed, hey
how long have you been together? like, 2 weeks...?
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yeah, i agree.
i was just thinking that that, combined with the fact that the other week you were being a bit of a paranoid crazy girl, was a bit... obsessive girlfriend.
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NO that's not what I meant at all. What I am saying is I know a heap of girls who say no to a date because of some really silly reason. What I am saying is that sometimes giving some one a chance for a date might reveal someone you might click with. It's not about settling, it's just that sometimes you may find the right person in some one you didn't expect. Take a chance in meeting people, you don't have to marry them or keep dating but someone different may be just what you needheyyyy i was going to say the same thing!
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what the fuck is that shit.... unless i'm misinterpreting, you're basically saying people who don't want to be single should just settle for anyone for the sake of being in a relationship... and hope that it just works? uh no.
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I agree with this to an extent.
What I have noticed amongst friends and with myself is that the couples who have ended up being the best were the ones who ostensibly were not each others' "type". I mean, my boyfriend is perfect for me, but what I had previously thought would be my best match was actually not at all in reality.
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she is to the max.
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how many calls a day?
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ohh, nah theres a back story to the paranoia. Like, he said something to make me freak out but it was total miscommunication.
but yeah, we both said stuff about looking for long term relationships prior to getting together and its been briefly mentioned since one or two times.
lol bite me, riet.
Ok, half of you are in debates about whether the RIGHT amount of months / weeks is good enough to actually say you "love" them or whatever. This is not the case...
Basically, if you are seeking a mate for physical pleasure and arousing companionship, go to some local clubs with a friend or two, get drunk, and repeatedly approach attractive girls until you successfully find one interested in becoming your mate.
if you are seeking a mate for emotional pleasure, mentally stimulating and loving companionship, engage yourself in group hobbies and activities that interest you most, and seek out a female that meets or exceeds your passion for that activity, and engage her in relevant and interesting conversation.
in either case, if you are seeking a mate, and not just a friend, then you must "create a spark." to do so, just remember that you are both human, and both have innate ability and desire for physical sensual stimulation. dont be afraid to initiate the physical skin to skin contact. the sooner you do so, the easier it will be to move toward you goal of acquiring a mate.
in the first scenario, not only are you not required to "open up emotionally," you may be better off not doing so, and just concentrating on creating a physically stimulating bond between the two of you. in the second scenario, however, you would be better off "opening up" quite quickly, which will encourage her to do the same, creating a "bonding of the souls."
just keep in mind, that in the second scenario, creating an emotional connection with a like minded individual can turn into a close platonic relationship quite rapidly. to combat this, create the physical spark early on, and make a conscious effort to keep the flame alive with physical skin to skin contact, with an ever increasing sensuality to your physical contact.
with any luck, you should find a compatible mate, type of your choosing, in a short time.
Basically, if you are seeking a mate for physical pleasure and arousing companionship, go to some local clubs with a friend or two, get drunk, and repeatedly approach attractive girls until you successfully find one interested in becoming your mate.
if you are seeking a mate for emotional pleasure, mentally stimulating and loving companionship, engage yourself in group hobbies and activities that interest you most, and seek out a female that meets or exceeds your passion for that activity, and engage her in relevant and interesting conversation.
in either case, if you are seeking a mate, and not just a friend, then you must "create a spark." to do so, just remember that you are both human, and both have innate ability and desire for physical sensual stimulation. dont be afraid to initiate the physical skin to skin contact. the sooner you do so, the easier it will be to move toward you goal of acquiring a mate.
in the first scenario, not only are you not required to "open up emotionally," you may be better off not doing so, and just concentrating on creating a physically stimulating bond between the two of you. in the second scenario, however, you would be better off "opening up" quite quickly, which will encourage her to do the same, creating a "bonding of the souls."
just keep in mind, that in the second scenario, creating an emotional connection with a like minded individual can turn into a close platonic relationship quite rapidly. to combat this, create the physical spark early on, and make a conscious effort to keep the flame alive with physical skin to skin contact, with an ever increasing sensuality to your physical contact.
with any luck, you should find a compatible mate, type of your choosing, in a short time.
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i hate to say it but a month is still shaky ground really. not trying to rain on your parade or anything i just don't think its long enough to be feeling too safe.
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yeah, a month is still way in they honeymoon period. you have to have some big fights and realise you hate certain things about each other before you can be sure that you REALLY love them and can put up with them regardless of stupid shit.
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^my point exactly^
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yeah, feels like we're only entering the honey moon period now, tbh.
it took a month for me to start feeling a bit more secure in the relationship so now I'm letting myself enjoy it.
it took a month for me to start feeling a bit more secure in the relationship so now I'm letting myself enjoy it.