The friendzone. (3 Viewers)

[Arcorn]

Why is Jumb the only one giving good advice(I've been in the same situation a couple of times).

Shadow, you're giving him the wrong advice, once a girl has made her mind up she won't change it. So shut the fuck up and stop trying to make it worse you fucking sick fuck.

 

[Absolutezero]

Why is Jumb the only one giving good advice(I've been in the same situation a couple of times).

Shadow, you're giving him the wrong advice, once a girl has made her mind up she won't change it. So shut the fuck up and stop trying to make it worse you fucking sick fuck.

jumb pretty much always has the best advice in these threads.

 

[Omnipotence]

This is like the only heart-felt and non troll L&R thread.

 

[lamingtons]

Judging from the way you type and your subjects you sound like a cute guy so she should fall for you.

lol m8

 

[Arcorn]

This is like the only heart-felt and non troll L&R thread.

I honestly think Shadow is trolling, he is giving the completely wrong advice.

 

[The Derivative]

None of that is right.

Those 'feelings' talks always suck. You can come prepared with a list in your head, but you always come away with more questions than answers. If you talk, you will just scare her away and coming out feeling worse.

If your goal is still to be with her, you're best off going no contact. There are more positive outcomes:
a) she will discover she misses you
b) you will move on and have lots of sex and pick up chicks

Apart from Stockholm Syndrome, girls don't learn to love. To be fair, neither do guys, but that's irrelevant here.

Best advice ever.

 

[kcqn93]

I honestly think Shadow is trolling, he is giving the completely wrong advice.

Shadow's advice kinda gives me hope...

Anyhow... me and the girl have lunch every Tuesdays at uni. Should I go or skip it?

 

[Arcorn]

Shadow's advice kinda gives me hope...

Anyhow... me and the girl have lunch every Tuesdays at uni. Should I go or skip it?

He hasn't even spoken to girls that he has liked so he hasn't ever been friendzoned. I had the same hope that you did, but I honestly never had a chance of getting out of the friendzone with a couple of the girls I got friendzoned by. It messed with my emotional state so much before I made the realisation that neither of them liked me nor would they ever like me. You just have to realise this.

Skip it.

 

[Absolutezero]

He hasn't even spoken to girls that he has liked so he hasn't ever been friendzoned. I had the same hope that you did, but I honestly never had a chance of getting out of the friendzone with a couple of the girls I got friendzoned by. It messed with my emotional state so much before I made the realisation that neither of them liked me nor would they ever like me. You just have to realise this.

Skip it.

Good advice. Also, do something else with other people at that time. Don't treat it as skipping it, rather, you have better things to do with other people. If you treat it as an action based on going or not, you're placing more importance on the lunch than you should.

 

[The Derivative]

I've never been friendzoned because I only tell people I liked them when i'm over them ^_^

 

[Absolutezero]

I've never been friendzoned because I only tell people I liked them when i'm over them ^_^

They don't have to know you like them for you to still be friendzoned though.

 

[The Derivative]

They don't have to know you like them for you to still be friendzoned though.

Really?

I thought friend zoning was when you tell them and they're like... no way buddy.

 

[Absolutezero]

Really?

I thought friend zoning was when you tell them and they're like... no way buddy.

It is, but it can be broaden to include unconscious friend zoning.

 

[The Derivative]

It is, but it can be broaden to include unconscious friend zoning.

Aww man >_>

So i've been friendzoned about... twice in my life

 

[clry]

I agree with the others, you have to skip it, but make sure you have other plans, so should she ask if you're going to lunch you, you have your excuse ready. From there keep separating yourself from her. If she knows she can get you, she won't want you. It's a fact of life.

 

[kcqn93]

Good advice. Also, do something else with other people at that time. Don't treat it as skipping it, rather, you have better things to do with other people. If you treat it as an action based on going or not, you're placing more importance on the lunch than you should.

I don't really have anything better to do... This is how the lunches came about before I came to like her. We became lunch friends so that we didn't have to eat alone. :\

What would you guys say about this;
Last Monday, I had classes from 8am to 4pm with no breaks. She figured I would be hungry so she brought me a subway and a drink to my lecture. A normal friend wouldn't do that right?!

 

[Hermes1]

I don't really have anything better to do... This is how the lunches came about before I came to like her. We became lunch friends so that we didn't have to eat alone. :\

What would you guys say about this;
Last Monday, I had classes from 8am to 4pm with no breaks. She figured I would be hungry so she brought me a subway and a drink to my lecture. A normal friend wouldn't do that right?!

actually thats what a caring friend would do. u r trying to read into it too much, u really want this girl to like you and therefore u r microanalysing everything and this could hurt u psychologically in the long run.
The love of one girl isnt worth risking ur health

 

[michaeljennings]

she brought me a subway and a drink to my lecture. A normal friend wouldn't do that right?!

You lucky dawwwg! I cant believe this girl only wants to be friends with you. I wish all my friends brought me subway and a drink..

 

[The Derivative]

I don't get it. What's wrong with being friend zoned?

Just be their friend. So what if he/she doesn't want anymore? If you really liked them for who they are, that shouldn't matter to you anyway

 

[kcqn93]

I don't get it. What's wrong with being friend zoned?

Just be their friend. So what if he/she doesn't want anymore? If you really liked them for who they are, that shouldn't matter to you anyway

Like I've said, I value our friendship and there's nothing wrong with being just friends...

But it's the fear of one day seeing the girl that you love with another dude.