Lolsmith
kill all boomers
because they look out for women and women are often the victims of rape is why it's a big deal for them would be my first guesswhy rape = power is such a big thing for feminists
second guess would be that the implicit declaration when you say that sex isn't about power, it's only about sex, brings both sexes down. It says that women are at fault for some reason by dressing/acting in some way (which is the part that they care about) and that men will get sex consensually or not because they want it. Have you ever tried to put your dick in an un-lubricated, or not-lubricated-enough vagina? Shit *hurts* bro. I'm convinced that there's no way a dude would do that to themselves, let alone the woman, if there wasn't something extra there apart from the sex.
But that being said, there is sexual gratification in some forms of rape. Rape isn't just "bash over the head and put dick inside and then slit throat after ejaculation" or what have you. Like stampede just said, it can be someone who agrees initially and then changes their mind (which they're entitled to do) but one of the parties doesn't care and proceeds without their consent. There might be no initial consent at all. Certain persons might not be determined to have the facility to provide actual consent for the act that they're doing because they don't realise the gravity of the situation, children, drunks, etc. Some might be under duress/coercion, however I don't really know/have a stance on whether this is a case of rape or not.
I don't think this cuts one way or the other. Sex isn't that clear cut and neither is human psychology (which is the essence of the issue here). Rape can sure as shit be about sex, but it can certainly also be about power instead. A lot of feminists are dumb however, which should answer your question pretty clearly.