Alcohol, what it can & cannot do.. (1 Viewer)

[Korn]

what would u do if ur gf/bf hooked up with or even slept with another person while they were really drunk... ?

would you forgive them? or just breakup?

Ild have to breakup with them, unless they were taken advantage of, but if they were the one who instigated it, then shes goneskis

 

[virgin^sexy]

i'd be pretty upset but it wouldn't definitely mean i'd break up with him

 

[spin spin sugar]

ive forgiven but i didnt forget, you really cant let that shit go no matter how much you want to, it tends to ruin everything from that point on cos you just donbt trust the person as much anymore. its cheesy and cliched but trust is everything and once thats gone it spells the end for a relationship pretty much

im sure it could be repaired through counselling and considerable effort but who could be fucked at our age.

 

[ur_inner_child]

chris has been drunk enough to not know what he's doing and still keep me in mind.

i dont particularly think alcohol is an excuse. it can be a factor, but saying "but i was drunk!" doesn't help anything. more so how sorry or how much of an effort he will make to patch things up.

I'm not sure what I'd do, but I hope I wont get into that situation any time soon.

 

[jhakka]

http://www.boredofstudies.org/community/showthread.php?p=962500#post962500

I love that quote.

 

[Korn]

i'd be pretty upset but it wouldn't definitely mean i'd break up with him

If ur bf slept with someone else, u wouldnt drop him?

 

[spin spin sugar]

i dunno ur_inner_child, alcohol has completely different effects on different people

 

[spin spin sugar]

http://www.boredofstudies.org/community/showthread.php?p=962500#post962500

I love that quote.

hmm ... .......

... I don't drink and don't cheat, so I'm a bit removed from what I'm commenting on, . ...

 

[Korn]

chris has been drunk enough to not know what he's doing and still keep me in mind.

i dont particularly think alcohol is an excuse. it can be a factor, but saying "but i was drunk!" doesn't help anything. more so how sorry or how much of an effort he will make to patch things up.

I'm not sure what I'd do, but I hope I wont get into that situation any time soon.

Yes ur so right, alcohol doesnt change who u are, it just sometimes brings it out in ppl, or makes them not think right

 

[alby]

if he kissed someone - depends how 'drunk' they were, how much i liked/loved him & how long we'd been together
if he slept with someone - most likely dump him..dont think i could forgive and/or forget that

 

[ur_inner_child]

i dunno ur_inner_child, alcohol has completely different effects on different people

that doesn't hit the point if say you confessed to me you locked lips with someone, and you kept saying "but i was drunk! i was DRUNK!!!"

I've seen to many relationships (from other people) go to the shit cuz the person who cheated kept hiding behind the fact they were drunk. You gotta look beyond that stuff....

you're meant to run around and go *barry white voice* "no but baby, i love you... i don't know what I'd do without you. I'm so sorry, I just feel so shit now. How could I have done this to you?" etc....

or something along those mushy lines.

 

[Jago]

I have no idea what i would do. Hopefully i would never have to know.

 

[spin spin sugar]

yeah, i know innerchild, its actually happened to me. and while i still dont know if i respect the excuse of drunkenness, i do know that in SEPERATE situations, ive seen people turn into COMPLETELY different personalities under the effects of alcohol, in particular if theyre drinking stronger shit like absinthe or that greek stuff (i forget what its called)..(edit just remembered its 'uozo')..., and especially if theyve mixed spirits etc with other types of drinks. i also think in general men have a lot less control over their own physicality /sex drive than women if yr speaking in regards to guys -

so i think its really not as simple as to say 'alcohol isnt an excuse', cos basically theres a million different kinds of people out there who have a million different kinds of effects from alcohol. and i HAVE seen people go fucking mental on it.

 

[Danoz The Great]

ur_inner_child is right again

 

[katietheskatie]

i don't know, i can't generalise .. it would depend on the situation. but i think the excuse of being too drunk is bullshit. no-one's forcing you to drink to the point of not being able to handle yourself.

 

[OZGIRL86]

what would u do if ur gf/bf hooked up with or even slept with another person while they were really drunk... ?

would you forgive them? or just breakup?

I don't think I could continue having a realtionship with them, I'd breakup with them.
Cheating is cheating, and thats it.. no excuses.. I wouldn't be able to trust them again, I'd feel really hurt and upset.
Once a person cheats they will probably cheat again(i'm not saying everyone does it again,some people might learn from their mistakes)

 

[braad]

alcohol should not be used as an excuse for erratic or stupid behaviour, unfortunately there are often cases in driving where an accident occurs, and the person gets off coz they were intoxicated and therefore werent under normal body control...or sum shit like that....

alot of society seems to think that alcohol (at stupidifying amounts) is an excuse 4 dumbass behaviour...which it isnt, it gets carried over and ppl expect others 2 forgive them because "they were drunk and didnt know wot they were doing"

load of bullshit, i'd get rid of them....

 

[soha]

i say ban alcohol..
the world would be a batter place

 

[braad]

errr....i like alcohol, but not in huge doses....3 drinks in 2 hours gets me relaxed n happy..(not tipsy/ditsy/blaa blaa)

 

[iamsickofyear12]

I've been really really drunk before but have I have always known what I was doing and was able to make decisions. Alcohol is an excuse for being stupid, but not cheating.