are you lonely? (1 Viewer)

[kirbflare]

yes im lonely

 

[boris]

why dont all u lonely people become friends then you all wont be lonely anymore

 

[Ivich]

occasionally i get lonely, im anti-social though so being alone most of the time keeps me quite happy. but the isolation gives me no one to talk to when i want to, so i have efriends!

i can tell them my deepest darkest thoughts, and then block them when i dont want to talk to them.

problem solved.

takes a unique person to live the way i do

No, not really. haha

 

[snow_fanatzi]

Yeah I do get lonely sometimes. It used to be most of the time - but nobody would have guessed that about me - and I was too proud (maybe still am) to say anything about how I felt/feel. I'm a really active person, always busy trying something new or perfecting something or other..it's only when I lose perspective or direction that I become depressed or real achingly lonely. (maybe the odd suggestion of a hobby - or starting to volunteer at a shelter - my help to distract you

My family has to be the closest friends I have...I have found that friends come and go (and although I do have a friends to go out with - I dont confide in them) but my family remains - there (how lame can you get right?lol I don't really care).

You'll find that most people want to fit in - but they have that conflicting desire to remain unique, an individual but to simultaneously resemble everyone else. Sometimes these emotions can be ovewhelming (that desire to belong and to have friends like that chick flick 'Sisterhood of the travelling pants' - or something like that), and so you reject the people around to protect you from these feelings of isolation (an act which ironically intensifys those emotions).

In reality these people surrounding you are probably your friends, but you need to remember that almost everyone is focusing on what they want in life and what THEY are going through. Sure they may lend an ear every now and then, but then they return to their life. Thats just how most people are *shrug*.

Everyone struggles to find their path in life - some lucky people (successfully) surround themselves with friends through life - whilst other may only have one or two friends (one of them being their husband/wife/partner).
I have met people that appeared to fit in - had amost the whole school as friends, and yet they were most loneliest people. You just never know.

Hope that answers some question of yours Sorry about the long post (just in one of those pondering moods I guess).

those are really good points! and yes i totally agreed with you.

i guess im just too afraid of getting close to people. sometimes i come this Close to telling them how i feel or starting to feel like i belong to their group, yet i know i am pushing them away. why all these negative thoughts? i always ask myself that. guess it is me that is the problem.

i just sit there, watch as people goes by, and envy them.

im a really shy person. i dont talk to them unless they talk to me which probably why i dont make much friends. urghh *bang head* it so hard to change yourself, your attitude when old habit is so hard to get rid off.

Lol at boris

 

[XPac2]

That is bullshit.

Most of society is either depressed or lonely. why? because people dont know how to put their emotions/energy into good use.
Im not trying to attack you, but people who talk about how lonely they are dont realise how self-absorbed they are.

 

[dickiie]

To OP: Go to talk to someone real, no really. It helps if you can read/see someone/your best friend's facial expression.

Go find someone, anyone and confess all your feelings and whats not. It was proven that you'll feel better if you talk to someone face to face instead of through a wire.

 

[snow_fanatzi]

thanks alot to all you people who message me and are there to support and is willing to lend an ear to hear about my problem. *hugs to all you people*

i dont want to sound like im whinging about my loneliness. i really want to hear about your problem as well, how you cope through your lonely time. after all i just realise that im not the only one who is feeling this. and what better way to share our problems than in a forum where no one know who you are and cant really judge you.

since im starting uni soon i hope to find new friends.... im also tryna find something to do, a hobby that will help me become less shy. i hate being shy, hate not being able to talk to someone because im too afraid to say anything. im tryna get rid of that shyness.

my new year resolution: to get rid of my shyness and talk!

 

[HalcyonSky]

thanks alot to all you people who message me and are there to support and is willing to lend an ear to hear about my problem. *hugs to all you people*

i dont want to sound like im whinging about my loneliness. i really want to hear about your problem as well, how you cope through your lonely time. after all i just realise that im not the only one who is feeling this. and what better way to share our problems than in a forum where no one know who you are and cant really judge you.

since im starting uni soon i hope to find new friends.... im also tryna find something to do, a hobby that will help me become less shy. i hate being shy, hate not being able to talk to someone because im too afraid to say anything. im tryna get rid of that shyness.

my new year resolution: to get rid of my shyness and talk!

i find shyness like that really cute, the only problem is that people like you are rarely out anywhere so its hard to meet them

imo dont worry about ur shyness, just put urself in awkward situations like going out to clubs or whatever (im assuming you do have some friends?) and youll eventually meet someone who's into you. I'm not pushing the 'just be yourself' ideal, im just saying that shyness is not necessarily a negative thing, and once you accept it like that it will naturally become less of a problem for you.

 

[dinopoke]

Sometimes, you should take that 'risk' to go outside your boundaries. As with love, you never know unless you try.

 

[x.christina]

Nope. Not lonely.

 

[NinjaB]

i have no idea where to put this thread but oh well.... hope it's alright here.

so the question is are you lonely? do u feel like you dont fit anywhere? or doesnt have a person where you can trust or someone to listen to you rant about stuff?

well, i do have friends but sometimes i feel like i dont belong there. sometimes i feel so left out or they just shut me out....it like a feeling of not wanting to be there.

i guess im just a lonely person who build a wall around herself and just go with the flow of life. i dont have a person who i can talk to cos maybe they dont bother listening to me or is not there when i needed them (for example: when my brother was in hospital and was near death no one was there to comfort me through my depression) i usually find myself shopping alone.

so is there anyone out there who is in a group but feel like they dont belong? or am i the only one? just share ur thoughts and feelings i guess.

i can relate to this

yeah im lonely, but sometimes its better that way

 

[Cyberdemon]

Just watch Lost.

 

[freekyboi]

man i felt so sad for u wen reading that post
i suppose the only thing for you to do is start talking to people more... since ure new to uni this year, its prob a good opportunity to open up and meet new people. Read this best selling book, its really interesting and should be helpful.
How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
you can also find a job, join clubs, etc. to meet new people/past time.
If your still having problems, you can find some consolation in other things like books, movies, music, etc. Good books include philosophical ones, like Consolations of Philosophy. It emphasizes that there are others in your position, and you should be happy with what you have, though you should still acknowledge that you want to meet and become close with other people. I suppose with music its each to their own. I'd recommend some white stripes, the beatles, etc. With movies, i suppose some of those romantic type would do u good, try eternal sunshine of the spotless mind. these things actually make you feel better.
anyway, best of luck with things

 

[IndustrialBar]

I don't mean to sound like an ass, but are you physically attractive?

Looking like a ruminant tends to be an issue for many lonely people that inhibits their confidence in themselves and their ability to take chances.

Alternatively, you could dabble in smack.

 

[mce_young10]

i need sum1 to tlk to cuz no1 will listen to me.... if any1 will meet up with me at macq centre well chat and tlk. btw im in yr 11

 

[mixt]

stan zemanak helpline lololol

 

[Uncle]

Usually I undertake lone sneaking missions in enemy territory so going solo is needed but at times I may need assistance from nearby comrades.

 

[Iron]

Yer i'm so lonely
I used to think of blowing my brains out bc I was so loney
Canberra, aye

Im not really wanting of friends, but I mostly feel misunderstood and either wildly above the herd or tragically out of my depth. Sometimes I want to cuddle my asian flatmate, and I do.
It's not gay if theyre not proficient with engrish imo

 

[joath]

you definitely need a boyfriend!!!

 

[IndustrialBar]

No kidding.