grk_styl said:
wow! do you still have a strong relationship with ur parents, tho?
Well in honest truth no. I moved away from home twice. I'm still on my second one, and there is no possible way for me to come home.
Anyway the first time I left home was because I wanted to choose my HSC subjects, and not have them choose them for me. I also wanted them to accept Chris and let me see him. They said yes, but they only did exactly what I asked - ie let me see him (not often) and choose my subjects (but give me shit about it).
I moved out again a little while ago, but not because of the boyfriend reason, but more of how they needed to control and shape my life, about what degree I choose, who I see, how I act, what I dressed, it got beyond a joke, and it got a bit more intense when I started straying from their designated path in Year 12. They'd get pretty abusive so I left them late last year, with government support services aiding me through both emotional and financial problems I came across.
Been fending for myself these last 7 months. Leaving them initially was the most traumatising thing ever. They told me not to ever call them again and that they'd change numbers and move house (in which they did) and etc. Which, I would have to say, cutting contact from me proves that they couldn't ever really love me for who I am and what I wanted to be, but only love someone they dreamt of.
In which case I don't want to give off a vibe that those who have disapproving parents to go all out and rebel. I didn't do that. I did everything possible, sit down and talk, get family counselling etc.
Actually I hate that I've written so much now, cuz I'll get all these people saying "aww.... (F)" or whatever. I don't find it too bad. I do really really hate the fact that my parents couldn't give me any room to find out who I was or realise my potential. But it's not particularly a sad story. I'm in a good place now, I feel confident with myself and what I do, and I love who I am. I personally think a sad situation would be if I hadn't actually stood up for myself and stayed.
That's enough now
i don't talk about my boyfriend infront of my parents (well technically my mum, since my dad doesn't know....like every wog father he thinks i'm going to be the virgin mary up until my wedding night). It just bugs me sometimes when my brother brings his girlfriend over everyday and we have "family" dinners, yet I can't bring my partner over. Thus I've decided to keep my boyfriend very separate from my family. Obviously it's for the better.
Then again, my parents' reasoning is stupid and pathetic. We have an age gap that they "don't approve of". Well as long as I approve, who the fuck cares? lol
How large is the age gap anyway? You'll be what, 20 soon if not already and the age gap will seem less and less big.
How does your mum know? Has she met him?
My friend, who's italian is going out with a greek boy for three years. I don't know how long youve been with your boyfriend, but I've noticed that if you compare what it is now, and what it had been 3 years ago, so much has changed, simply through persistance and having him there often. The dad is still a bit uneasy but he tolerates her going out with her boyfriend because he knows him very well - contact numbers, who he hangs out with, which uni, where he works etc.
Otherwise, I definatley don't blame you for what you're doing.
