Friends of the opposite sex (1 Viewer)

[BackCountrySnow]

as long as you're both ugly then it's fine.

 

[Terlob]

"i love you and youre my best friend. im a virgin and im curious. teach me."

How the fuck did that come up in conversation

 

[settle*precious]

I get along with guys way better. My closest mates are male and only 2 of them have ever been more then friendship.

 

[Nebuchanezzar]

How the fuck did that come up in conversation

does this not come up in casual conversations often!?!?

 

[sonyaleeisapixi]

How the fuck did that come up in conversation

well it wasnt as clinical as that, haha.
i brought it up one drunken night and the next morning he was like
"were you serious?"
and I like
"Uh, I suppose..
Yes."

 

[sonyaleeisapixi]

as long as you're both ugly then it's fine.

hes way prettier than me
=<

 

[BackCountrySnow]

Maddest moment with a friend of mine:
Me: you reckon anal would hurt?
her: wouldn't be that bad with lube..
me: wanna try?
her: k lol.

 

[moll.]

My relationships with my two closest female friends have both turned out weird. And coincidentally, neither of them involved sex.
The first one nothing happened, but everyone was pressuring us to do something. I now have virtually no contact with her and we can barely be considered friends. Can't help but wondering if we had done something would it have turned out weird.
Second one, i admitted after a few months of continued closeness that i liked her a lot more, and she freaked out. We didn't talk for 3 moths after that and have only recently patched up the relationship back to where it was. She has also admitted that the only reason she said no was because she was afraid to ruin our relationship and that if we hadn't been such good friends then she would have said yes. Which i find blatantly stupid and told her so. I still suspect she was lying to protect my feelings.

 

[melanieeeee.]

yes. lol. what a question.

 

[Patar]

I think its entirely possible

though sometimes it is hard being close to someone you get along well with and is pretty good-looking as well without the thought crossing your mind at least once.

lol, my English teacher thinks not though!

 

[Dreck]

When Harry Met Sally, anyone?

 

[PrettyOddProlix]

Is it possible to maintain a strong friendship with a person of the other sex, while never thinking about them in a sexual way?

Discuss

Yes.
One easy case: dude/chick + fgt chick/dude.

And can that friendship last if it becomes sexual?

Depends.
Pacchiru's right.

... probably not; at least, it won't last long.

 

[cannibal.horse]

For girls its difficult. I personally won't talk to a girl if she's ugly because I don't want people thinking less of me, so already I find them attractive in some way. If its purely a work related relationship I wouldn't care, but if we've been social friends for a while I find myself attracted eventually.

with girls I find its very different. There's a whole lot of 'just friends' which goes on there. Tends to go when they get their knickers off though.

 

[beentherdunthat]

umm, confessing will make your relationship awkward if he/she doesn't feel the same way.

qft.

 

[nicollette]

I personally won't talk to a girl if she's ugly because I don't want people thinking less of me.

You've taken the word shallow to a whole new meaning. So if some 'ugly girl' had passed out on the road or something, you wouldn't help her because she's ugly? Just an example, but thats low....

 

[ubernuton]

if your a girl yes if your a guy you proable will think about them in a sexual way however you will proable never make an advance on them

 

[inter108]

This only works if your friend is hot.

 

[Scissors]

You've taken the word shallow to a whole new meaning. So if some 'ugly girl' had passed out on the road or something, you wouldn't help her because she's ugly? Just an example, but thats low....

how's the weather up there at the moral high ground?

 

[inter108]

Lol reminds me of the days at school

 

[cannibal.horse]

You've taken the word shallow to a whole new meaning. So if some 'ugly girl' had passed out on the road or something, you wouldn't help her because she's ugly? Just an example, but thats low....

With the above example I'd probably help her because she's still human and if I didn't and she died I may be criminally culpable. But if I saw her alone at a party I'd certainly leave her there.

Personally I think you're shallow because you fail to recognise physical beauty. 'Personality' is subjective - what may be ideal for one person may be painful for others and you find with about 90% of people you can learn to like them if it is necessary. You only pretend to appreciate 'personality' because you are a product of a Judao-Christian culture which places emphasis on social cohesion.

A person's looks, intelligence, social skills and wealth (in that order) are far more objective qualities.