~Jess~ said:
ok, to start with, why is it guys replying?
secondly, for a guy to cry shows sensitivity, which i for one find attractive, they have feelings like us girls and aren't afraid to show it. I've never actually seen a guy cry, but I think there is way too much social pressure for men to be the strong ones, get over it, that was years ago! True, there is still that romantic idea of having a shoulder to lean on which i would like to see more in society, but if guys aren't going to be romantic, why not show feelings through a cry? I do, it relieves the stress, frustration, pain, etc i feel, so why should a guy not do the same???
What the hell is with girls posting things like this? Just because men rarely cry doesnt mean we are emotionally barren. We feel emotions just as much as you, but hey guess what? we are different genders. Men express their emotions differently. I dont want girls thinking iam insensitive or something just because i dont cry about everything.
um, dude that's exactly why I said men crying IS manly becoz they do cry and not give a fuck what everyone else thinks.
no you got what i said wrong. Crying isnt manly because although being manly is in part not caring what other people think, it isnt the opposite way.
The crying mans logic goes like this: being manly is not caring what other people think
if i cry it means i dont care if other people see me cry
therefore crying is manly.
The problem is that you can only be manly by other manly men confirming that you are macho. Because crying is showing your weakness[another part of being manly is not having a weakness, or learning to overcome them] then no manly man will ever confirm your masculinity.
Being manly isnt just not caring what other people think, its about being strong for others, its about overcoming adversity, its about showing incredible loyalty and not just doing whats good for you[but also not being afraid to be selfish when you need to]. Its about being scared[although no manly man will admit this] but not showing it and taking care of what needs to be done anyway[like that dude who cut off his own arm so he could escape a boulder and live]. Rarely do women understand any of this and a man who isnt masculine by definition doesnt get it either so that means the only people who can confirm your manlyness is other macho men.
Alot of the time i do feel pressured to act strong for other people, and i think doing that instead of giving in and crying is more noble and manly that going to peices like everyone else. Like last night some criminals jacked a car infront of my mums as she was driving then slammed into us. She was really shaken up, where as i just went through the process like " ok everyone allright? good. Did anyone get their carjackers license plate? anyone get a good look at them? ok ill call the police now, everyone just sit tight" I am usually the one to stay calm and take care of things when something bad happens.[my mum is the same, in her own female way. Probably cause shes a nurse so wounds dont bother her]
