Skittled
What did the crab do?
(If you can't be bothered reading the whole post, jump to the last paragraph to get the general gist...)
So, I've got a social Psych essay coming up for uni soon, I've noticed a bit of a pattern in the guys on the Love and Relationships forum of BOS. Some are quite confident in their abilities when it comes to, well, Love and Relationships, while others are a little more... well... modest.
I know that once upon a time I was a lot more shy than I am now, and until I stumbled upon some online "seduction" forums (do a google search for 'seduction' of you're interested, but there ARE some caveats, in my opinion.. happy to talk about that scene, but that's another story), I remained that way. After frequenting one of the smaller, slightly more down-to-earth forums for a while, something clicked (about the same time I got a job in retail, which forces you to be social, so that probably had some influence) and I could just talk to the girls I'd used to be very much more shy around, and without any problems.
That was an interesting little situation, though, becasue it flowed on from just success with girls (though, there were some major hiccups with girls along the way too, when I got a little TOO confident), to success in almost anything social. I've always been a leader, but suddenly taking the initiative was easier; as was public speaking and interviews, my sales at work seemed to grow exponentially, my relationship with my teachers (was in year 12 at the time) got better... Even more interestingly, my interest in girls seemed to become less a priority; suddenly life was full of fantastic opportunities that didn't seem to be there before the sudden confidence peak.
As I'm writing this, I realise it could also have just been me maturing, but that's where I'm going with this post. What I noticed the other day was that there're a few guys on here who're quite confident in their abilities, and I'm looking for your thoughts and ideas: Has it confidence (or lack of) been restricted to one or a few main areas of your life? Have you always been confident, outgoing and/or extraverted? If not, where was the turning point and how'd you get there?
What's your story?
So, I've got a social Psych essay coming up for uni soon, I've noticed a bit of a pattern in the guys on the Love and Relationships forum of BOS. Some are quite confident in their abilities when it comes to, well, Love and Relationships, while others are a little more... well... modest.
I know that once upon a time I was a lot more shy than I am now, and until I stumbled upon some online "seduction" forums (do a google search for 'seduction' of you're interested, but there ARE some caveats, in my opinion.. happy to talk about that scene, but that's another story), I remained that way. After frequenting one of the smaller, slightly more down-to-earth forums for a while, something clicked (about the same time I got a job in retail, which forces you to be social, so that probably had some influence) and I could just talk to the girls I'd used to be very much more shy around, and without any problems.
That was an interesting little situation, though, becasue it flowed on from just success with girls (though, there were some major hiccups with girls along the way too, when I got a little TOO confident), to success in almost anything social. I've always been a leader, but suddenly taking the initiative was easier; as was public speaking and interviews, my sales at work seemed to grow exponentially, my relationship with my teachers (was in year 12 at the time) got better... Even more interestingly, my interest in girls seemed to become less a priority; suddenly life was full of fantastic opportunities that didn't seem to be there before the sudden confidence peak.
As I'm writing this, I realise it could also have just been me maturing, but that's where I'm going with this post. What I noticed the other day was that there're a few guys on here who're quite confident in their abilities, and I'm looking for your thoughts and ideas: Has it confidence (or lack of) been restricted to one or a few main areas of your life? Have you always been confident, outgoing and/or extraverted? If not, where was the turning point and how'd you get there?
What's your story?
