Re: when did you lose your virginity?
I swore I posted in this thread ages ago, but when I searched it, nothing came up..so here goes.
Im 19 and still a virgin, by choice. I'm not necessarily waiting for marriage I'm waiting for a guy that I know isnt just using me for sex, or is going to leave me straight after, and somebody whose going to be there in the case of a baby (yes of course I'd use protection but we know that its not 100% effective).
I'm also waiting 'til we're both ready. If that means we're not ready til marriage, then so be it. I'm not necessarily gonna lose my virginity to the person I intend to marry either. Its just gotta be someone I love and someone who loves me back. Its all about timing to, I'm not gonna fuck someone I've been dating for 3 months, I think it has to be at least a year and a bit, and then the love, and then when we both feel right about it.
As far as the bible goes. God doesnt condonesex before marriage...hell back in like I dunno...centuries ago... people didnt even get married before having sex/children. God (if infact you believe in God (Im an agnostic)) just doesnt want people having unwanted children, or commitiing the act of love, without actually being in love.
Now I do agree that its silly for a 14 year old boy or girl to be thinking that they're 'in love' and therefore having sex. I think that the act of love should be made when the person/s are more mature minded. Hence why they have the whole legal age thing. A 14 year old doesnt know about love and if they do then (I feel that) they aren't old enough to grasp the concept/meaning of it. Its fine to experiment in other ways, because this gives an insite to what its all like, but I dont think should go beyond that and into the 'act of love' until they are 'in love'....
That's just my opinion. I dont look down on people who make other choices, but this is my choice, and my current bf feels the same way (is still a virgin). I'm a virgin and theres no shame in that, nor is there shame in losing it...I assume, I cant talk from that perspective.
/rant