introducing bf/gf to his/her parents (1 Viewer)

[rebornrlaguddn]

hello
i'm having a big problem atm
my gf wants to introduce me to her parents but she's afraid if they gonna reject
is there any ways to make them not to reject me?
also can u share ur experiences of successfully introducing ur bf/gf to his/her parents?
thank you

 

[hiphophooray123]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aPjfqWCscJk

this will give you all the answers you need

 

[hiphophooray123]

It's about all sorts of things

 

[Evilo]

* be polite
* smartly dress (like just dont wear the dunlop volleys & ripped up jeans - dont go all out with a suit lol)
* dont get drunk
* do some googling before you visit her. See if her dad/mum runs a company or something - how thats going? dont bring up work if they're having legal/financial issues etc.
* ask your gf if there are any controversial issues not to talk about (see next 2 points)
* dont say stupid shit - dont talk about sex, masturbating, drugs, thieft, porn, fucked up shit you've seen on the internet etc. (dont talk about something which you know will rub them up the wrong way,
* Dont talk about controversial issues that are personal to the family ( i.e. i nearly spoke about illegal downloads when the mum worked at MIPI), but could include things like adoption, suicide, divorce, termination, miscarrage etc. (some of these issues can be talked about, but me mature about it. i.e. dont say things like "aha my brother is a joke, he's adopted".)
* Be considerate of things like religion: if you're not sure about her religious standards google it (i.e. if there are certain thing you need to do at the dinner table).
* talk about your future (especially uni and things like that - if you're not that age, then subjects is okay.)
* relax, try and be yourself
* dont quote movies/tv as jokes which you know they probably havent seen - its okay to talk about a topic/theme etc, but don't go on about it - particular shows like southpark [describing mr hanky the christmas poo just wont work]

the gf will recognise if you're not being yourself, so try and be yourself. (lol quite hard after previosuly mentioned list). If you use common sense then you should be okay

EDIT - one thing i think is important is giving the dad a good 'firm' handshake, look him in the eyes and introduce youself. It also might lighten the mood a bit, particularly if hes nervous about his "little girl" going out with guys.

 

[sca]

They're just people. Relax, don't talk about sex, and you'll be fine. I was never "introduced" to my boyfriend's parents as such, we just kind of met by default and over a year later they still seem to like me a lot.

(And vice versa, haha although my dad met Tim at about the same time I did. Dad being a Scout leader and Tim and I "meeting" on a Scout camp when we were 13).

 

[Russdog]

can u share ur experiences of successfully introducing ur bf/gf to his/her parents?
thank you

hasn't she met her parents before? :O

you met her parents before her? :O

 

[clarity.novo]

just show that you're trying to make an effort with them. help clear the table, clean the dishes, joke with their little sister/brother, etc.

if her parents are asian, then always arrive with some food - i.e, a box of in-season fruit like custard apple or rambutan etc. you'll be in their good books right away, and they'll be bragging to the relatives about how you're such a good kid and you know how to respect your elders etc etc.

 

[shinji]

just show that you're trying to make an effort with them. help clear the table, clean the dishes, joke with their little sister/brother, etc.

if her parents are asian, then always arrive with some food - i.e, a box of in-season fruit like custard apple or rambutan etc. you'll be in their good books right away, and they'll be bragging to the relatives about how you're such a good kid and you know how to respect your elders etc etc.

can agree with this part.

and also, don't pig out if you're dining with them. offer to help around.
don't stink out the toilet when u go to the toilet to do a Mr Hanky. lol.
Better yet, don't go to the toilet at all.

bringing something is always a plus. and if you're not the type of person that doesn't knw what to say when giving stuff to people, then ask ur gf to give it to them.

don't be/act stingy.

 

[katietheskatie]

you need to introduce your girlfriend to her own parents? fuck what is this, the jungle book?

 

[Serius]

This still happens? i have always just met my girlfriends parents by randomly showing up to pick her up or something and seeing them and saying hi, not some sort of big sit down "meet the parents" style dinner and such. Just act like a normal person and dont say anything bad to her in front of them, or about her to them.

Just hang out with her and when you see them talk to them, they are people too not scary monsters.

 

[breaking]

* be polite
* smartly dress (like just dont wear the dunlop volleys & ripped up jeans - dont go all out with a suit lol)
* dont get drunk
* do some googling before you visit her. See if her dad/mum runs a company or something - how thats going? dont bring up work if they're having legal/financial issues etc.
* ask your gf if there are any controversial issues not to talk about (see next 2 points)
* dont say stupid shit - dont talk about sex, masturbating, drugs, thieft, porn, fucked up shit you've seen on the internet etc. (dont talk about something which you know will rub them up the wrong way,
* Dont talk about controversial issues that are personal to the family ( i.e. i nearly spoke about illegal downloads when the mum worked at MIPI), but could include things like adoption, suicide, divorce, termination, miscarrage etc. (some of these issues can be talked about, but me mature about it. i.e. dont say things like "aha my brother is a joke, he's adopted".)
* Be considerate of things like religion: if you're not sure about her religious standards google it (i.e. if there are certain thing you need to do at the dinner table).
* talk about your future (especially uni and things like that - if you're not that age, then subjects is okay.)
* relax, try and be yourself
* dont quote movies/tv as jokes which you know they probably havent seen - its okay to talk about a topic/theme etc, but don't go on about it - particular shows like southpark [describing mr hanky the christmas poo just wont work]

the gf will recognise if you're not being yourself, so try and be yourself. (lol quite hard after previosuly mentioned list). If you use common sense then you should be okay

EDIT - one thing i think is important is giving the dad a good 'firm' handshake, look him in the eyes and introduce youself. It also might lighten the mood a bit, particularly if hes nervous about his "little girl" going out with guys.

i'm fairly sure that's trying a littttle bit too hard, you could pretty much eliminate everything that isn't bolded :/

 

[Saskia 91]

Hey im in a long term relationship and meeting the parents seems like a big deal to begin with but trust me it becomes insignificant later, a moment to laugh at.
Just relax. They are people not aliens so just be normal like when you meet anyone else. It really isn't a big deal. If you work yourself up about it it'll turn into one.
Good luck, you'll be fine

 

[scarybunny]

I tend to think it's best not to make a big deal out of it. If they have a nice kid, chances are that they're nice people too.


But then you break up and you never get to see them again. Boo.

 

[Evilo]

i'm fairly sure that's trying a littttle bit too hard, you could pretty much eliminate everything that isn't bolded :/

hahah fair enough.

i have had some tough parents to crack. lol

 

[scarybunny]

Yeah I think it's harder for the boy to crack the girl's parents.

I just have to bring a cheesecake and I've won them.

 

[Zrap]

Is it an interracial relationship?

 

[lilkiwicutie89]

just show that you're trying to make an effort with them. help clear the table, clean the dishes, joke with their little sister/brother, etc.

if her parents are asian, then always arrive with some food - i.e, a box of in-season fruit like custard apple or rambutan etc. you'll be in their good books right away, and they'll be bragging to the relatives about how you're such a good kid and you know how to respect your elders etc etc.

done this multiple times,

they hate me, they are racist. im azn too .. but

taiwanese vS vietnamese

ayes

 

[lilkiwicutie89]

Yeah I think it's harder for the boy to crack the girl's parents.

I just have to bring a cheesecake and I've won them.

done that too

even went all my way to cook, and i RARELY cook... it was like my first time cooking this viet Pho (noodles)

i dont think they really appreciated, considering i had to wake up early, do reserach get to his place, it takes me 2.5 hours.

yay... i tried i guess

 

[clarity.novo]

done that too

even went all my way to cook, and i RARELY cook... it was like my first time cooking this viet Pho (noodles)

i dont think they really appreciated, considering i had to wake up early, do reserach get to his place, it takes me 2.5 hours.

yay... i tried i guess

wow, that's tough. maybe its not the food, and its probably not you. some parents are just like that. i know some of my friends whose parents will give the meanest stare and ignore them completely when they come to visit but they come around with time. i think another thing with asian parents, esp if they're really traditional is to not walk into the guy's room and close the doors or get too touchy-feely in front of them. that doesn't and will never go down well lol.

maybe ask your boyfriend if he knows what it is?

 

[rebornrlaguddn]

wat should gf tells to her parents bout me?
because this is the part where she's struggling atm