Well that's what I mean, in my mind, it's "some"day so you're telling me that day is...nowish am i right? So, if my kid starts yr 7 all G rated and I don't mean wuddup g, she gonna be ridiculed cos she's all rainbows and butterlies rn. I don't put stress on her...I try to take it all, hence the neurosis.
>my kid comes from a bubbleHey all, rather than replying individually and spamming just wanted to bulk thank everyone for your responses, all of it is super relevant to me cos I have no idea whether she's gonna float or sink. Thanks for your reassurance! Since you all seem very legit and I really want to utilize all of your wordly knowledge of ss, I might as well disclose that she's going to sgh, does all the above still apply?
Of similar importance, switching over to street cred: my kid comes from a bubble, most likely my fault cos social media is banned and everything they watch gotta be pg. I also don't let them listen to mainstream music because - I mean have you listened to mainstream? most of it is about stuff she's not ready for, it is really hard to sift through. So she mostly listens to musicals, but I've been trying to find tracks to allow when I have the time.
So my kid gon be like a complete newb when she hits HS...
Partly my doing, partly she doesnt even wanna know if you say it might be inappropriate. Her school also doesnt do "personal" education iykwim, it's not to say our house is a church, because despite no social, I provide the trolling services for free
As seniors, what do you guys advise? Do I let her just organically fumble through any strange concepts at school when/if it arises, or do I prep her? How much do yr 7s know about life beyond books these days? I mean, in retrospect, would you prefer to start yr 7 like a disney character or a rock star? do I lock her in a room and say...hey watch gossip girl and mean girls and learn (not doing that! clearly haven't watched any current teen shows). But her friend of a friend also starting yr 7 apparently is watching V Diaries!???? is that not TOO old for 11?? I told my kid, no way you're watching that, am I being a huge buzzkill? I quickly replayed a few seasons in my head, pretty sure, it's too full on, but maybe I'm just too square?
I dunno what's normal. I just dont want my 11yo kid putting herself on tiktok/insta/fb like some needy attn seeking tween for likes.
Screw all the others. Keep her in that bubble. You don’t want anything going wrong with her.
agreed, social media is toxic
Thanks, yes personally liked both these shows too...I'll try them on her.
Coming from a girl who lives in a very conservative household and was raised in a similar way:
Based on my experience, literally no one will care. In fact, only a small minority in my grade actually played instruments.
Although most people (including me) would've highly recommended it, no one cared or looked down on you if you didn't do tutoring.
I've personally never heard anyone catch flack for that. I think people would just be more concerned if you were literally on the study grind for 24/7.
Once again, no one will care.
Thanks! for your response, yes I make sure both my kids know WHY all the time, I always check and ask them to reiterate any unpleasant teaching moments. I also try not to make their lives too difficult and say NO just cos it's fun as a parent to rule them all. So I do give reasons when I forbid stuff.
you have made some good points and ig i agree w ur mindset. just a question tho, if she does end up wanting to have an instagram account (maybe cause all her friends have one), would you let her?
I would, tbh, I expect her to create a basic profile cos otherwise she can't follow what the school/prefects put online. I would however remind her what she puts online could be there forever. Although at this stage can't imagine she would want to put herself online at a personal level anyway...she doesnt mind being on the school website etc. She is already quite careful which I am grateful for.