People who don't like commitment and are in relationships. (1 Viewer)

[nwatts]

but it's something you're obviously thinking about otherwise you wouldn't have made the thread yeah? making the 6 month limit seems a bit arbitrary. if these are the questions you're asking the bored of studies love and relationships forum (aka house of argo & komaticom) you'd want to ask him yeah?

don't want to get stuck into you- just not sure you're approaching your little dilemma in the most awesome of possible ways?

 

[Always]

I'm much the same. It's been over 15 months but I'm still scared of giving too much of myself, if you know what I mean.

I guess the only thing you can do is move forward. This is a new relationship, forget about the past, as hard as that may sound.

I sound like such a hypocrite right about now.

 

[blueeyesguy]

It's a lot of guesswork huh!

You never know, there are so many guys out there- how can you be sure one is right or wrong for you? And people change etc etc

Ah it's a scary thought.

ill say that if the person changes then they obviously arent right for you.As for the commitment and debate as to whether they're right for you or not just go with what feels natural I mean what would happen if the world wasnt round??? The point of that question is we dont know a definate answer which is the same as the commitment question you cant say for sure but its better to have loved and lost then not loved at all woahh im being way to serious lol

 

[Skeeta]

Oh yes well. Thanks Captain Gloomy.
It's nothing to do with past relationships really, the point is, I'm happy single but I'm happy with this man too.

The problem is the commitment part. I have a rule not to get too emotionally attached until you reach the two month stage. Primarily because I see girls throwing themselves at guys emotionally and they keep getting hurt. And looking desperate which is not cool.

Basically I'm happy with myself, happy with him, but scared of what may or may not happen.
I just wanted to know how to overcome that commitment thing rather than being told I need to get over it haha

you overcome it by letting go... and realising that there are lots of good guys out there, and not all of them are determined to break your heart. You need to look at the good relationships that have happened between people, rather than those that have become broken hearted.

theres nothing wrong with being scared if its a new situation for you and you have/nt felt this way before - but if you're holding back that might be a bigger problem..

 

[Atticus.]

hang on how are you happily single but at the same time happily attatched?
i always thought it was one or the other

and knowing more about this subject than most i can say just relax about it hey. the more you worry and the more insecure you are about it the more he will pick up on it and realise there is something wrong, and that there is a worry and hassle. the more relaxed you are about it the more happy youll be
what was that hilary duff movie quote? (shut up i was sick and there were no other dvds around home)
dont let the fear of striking out keep you out of the game
and my personal favourite "turn the fear of the unknown into the excitement of the potential"

i should have my own talk show

 

[grk_styl]

I think you're a bit like me (or I'm a bit like you, whatever).

I was badly burnt 2.5 years ago (yes I know get the fuck over it). Anyway, I was happily single for 2 yrs and was very committment-phobic. I've been seeing my boyfriend for 4 months and I could say that I'm still slightly committment-phobe, even though I love him and I can see myself with him for a really long time. I couldn't imagine us breaking up.

Maybe it's not being a commitment-phobe as such, but rather you're obviously scared of being hurt and you've found this new great guy and don't want it to fuck up. All I can say is don't let the commitment-phobe-ness take over your relationship. You could always talk to your boyfriend about it.

My boyfriend knows my commitment issues and he's helping me work them out. If you let him know, he might be able to tread carefully with some topics, whilst being honest and open about how he feels about you.

Does that make any sense? lol Anyway bottom line is: tell him, so you can work through it together. Have closure with your ex to get over some commitment fears, and fucken just enjoy it.

 

[azzie]

ill say that if the person changes then they obviously arent right for you.

How old are you? 17/18?
Do you think you'll be the same at uni as you were at school? When you're 40 the same as when you're 20?


You really don't seem to have the best grasp on reality.






Everyone else, good hustle. I guess it's just about being prepared to give it a shot, even if things turn out pear shaped (hey, I'm pear shaped so that can't be too bad a way for things to turn out!).
I just get the jitters every now and again, I guess it's something I have to just let go.

 

[blueeyesguy]

How old are you? 17/18?
Do you think you'll be the same at uni as you were at school? When you're 40 the same as when you're 20?


You really don't seem to have the best grasp on reality.






Everyone else, good hustle. I guess it's just about being prepared to give it a shot, even if things turn out pear shaped (hey, I'm pear shaped so that can't be too bad a way for things to turn out!).
I just get the jitters every now and again, I guess it's something I have to just let go.

Im only 16 well nearly 17 lol but does that make me immature I guess it does but oh well. Yeah i understand what you're saying everyone does change its unavoidable but what i meant is that if you telling the person how you feel about your fear of commitment and all make them think twice about you then they obviously arent the one for you. My bad if that doesnt make sense and ill try and clarify things a bit better in future posts best of luck with the relationship