Sex - Worth the wait? (1 Viewer)

[Emma-Jayde]

All i wanted was an interesting conversation with different people's perspectives, not for people to throw insults for the sake of it.

Welcome to Bos, hunneh.

 

[princesskt]

You can't get aids twice! LOLZ.

well DUH! but u can get multiple stds

 

[Loz#1]

well DUH! but u can get multiple stds

so don't sleep around.

 

[crustafa]

So...back to the whole point of this thread.

Does anyone have a decent argument? Anyone at all?

 

[princesskt]

i think its worth the wait. sex is sposed to be special. sex is giving part of urself away and there is definitely a whole emotional side to it as well. but hey thats me..

 

[Not-That-Bright]

Ok I'll be serious for a second...

• Condom's do a pretty damn good job at stopping STD's.
• People are willing to take a little risk for great pleasure.
• If you know the person, there's much less of a risk

K?

 

[crustafa]

Ok so the condoms and AIDS and all the rest of it...negative physical rammifications right - all that seem 'solvable'.

Doesn't evidence suggest that sex is more than 'physical'? If it were PURELY physical, and preventative measures such as Condoms prevented STD's, then why is it that prostitues are generally unhappy? If sex is so great. so desirable. the more the merrier, right? no?

 

[Not-That-Bright]

why is it that prostitues are generally unhappy

Well while I think that's actually a myth that's been debunked, if it were true I'd blame it more on sleeping with people they have no interest in/bad working conditions etc.

If sex is so great. so desirable. the more the merrier, right? no?

Consenting sex with someone (or more than one person) you really, really like is something pretty good and yes - I'd say the more the merrier.

 

[goony]

If sex was so good - then why are prostitutes so miserable?

Isn't that like saying "If driving was so good, then why are some truckies/cabbies so miserable?"

 

[ybnormal]

its more about personal choices. weighing up the pros and cons.
its also about when you and the person are ready.
some people consider it a big imporatnt commitment, others dont. <shrugs> surely that is eveyones choice to make, and people should get over the choices that others are making.
there are many people waiting, in case thats really what you wanted to know. and i know a few people personally who are actually waiting, though you'd never ever expect that. i also know people in the other boat.
weigh up the consequences.(both good and bad) and make the right descion for YOU. its your life.

 

[Not-That-Bright]

surely that is eveyones choice to make, and people should get over the choices that others are making.

I see no problem in explaining to people why you're of the opinion that you are, it might help them to form their own.

 

[chelsea girl]

i don't think that very many people would wait till marriage these days because people do not get married at such a young age and many don't marry at all. however, i do think it's important to wait for someone you can love and trust, and who you are sure is not using you.

 

[crustafa]

So...

Waiting til marriage DOES eliminate the risk of comparison, does it not? (i.e. jane cannot complain that you were not as sexually impressive as john). Fear of not being as good as the last guy she slept with is eliminated, and both husband and wife are on the same level, as they both haven't had sex before.

 

[Not-That-Bright]

You know you CAN get aids twice, right?

....................................wait what?

Waiting til marriage DOES eliminate the risk of comparison, does it not? (i.e. jane cannot complain that you were not as sexually impressive as john). Fear of not being as good as the last guy she slept with is eliminated, and both husband and wife are on the same level, as they both haven't had sex before.

Yea, you don't have the risk of comparison, but you do run the risk of marrying a very dull sex partner.

Fear of not being as good as the last guy she slept with is eliminated

Because it's all about him?

 

[crustafa]

Yea, you don't have the risk of comparison, but you do run the risk of marrying a very dull sex partner.

Dull sex partner...two virgins getting married wouldn't know the meaning of it. It would be the best sex they've ever had. Besides, I'm sure people could learn.

 

[Not-That-Bright]

Dull sex partner...two virgins getting married wouldn't know the meaning of it.

So instead they'll just miss-out on ever knowing good sex? :/

Besides, I'm sure people could learn.

and I'm sure even if you've got someone to compare the guy to sexually and he's a weak performer - If you've decided to marry him, you probably love him

 

[crustafa]

So instead they'll just miss-out on ever knowing good sex? :/

You're missing the point.

They WOULD be having good sex. Maybe not by someone else's standards, but at least by theirs. And that's ALL that matters.

 

[tennille]

Does ANYONE wait until they're married to have sex these days? I'm just curious. What are the advantages of waiting until marriage? What are the advantages of not waiting? What are the disadvantages of both?

Let me know.

Ok...

1. STD's
2. Bob Sleeps With Jane, Jane rolls over and says "you're not as good as Billy" - if two people who have never had sex before wait until marriage - both would be perfectly content with each other.
3. A survey in America was conducted about who the most sexually satisfied people were...it turned out that Christian females were at the top of the list - females that waited until marriage.
4. Sure it's not romantic for a guy to say to his wife "I love you SO much that i have waited my entire life to have sex with you".
5. The belief that sex is more than a physical act, but also spiritual/emotional - that you actually give yourself away to someone else.
6. If sex was so good - then why are prostitutes so miserable?

I think you've answered your own question.

 

[crustafa]

I think you've answered your own question.

I wanted some other opinions. I want to know what other people think.

 

[alby]

Ok...

1. STD's
2. Bob Sleeps With Jane, Jane rolls over and says "you're not as good as Billy" - if two people who have never had sex before wait until marriage - both would be perfectly content with each other.
3. A survey in America was conducted about who the most sexually satisfied people were...it turned out that Christian females were at the top of the list - females that waited until marriage.
4. Sure it's not romantic for a guy to say to his wife "I love you SO much that i have waited my entire life to have sex with you".
5. The belief that sex is more than a physical act, but also spiritual/emotional - that you actually give yourself away to someone else.
6. If sex was so good - then why are prostitutes so miserable?

[posting without reading past page 1. dont give a crap if someone else's said this before, and it obviously needs to be said more than once]

dude, you make a thread asking for others opinions, and then after 3 posts you tell everyone what you think (with an obvious bias towards waiting).

and you've probably never even held a girl's hand. you're a stuipd naive boy. get out of here and quit it with the high and mighty shit, we dont want it