aight well i think that emotional cheating stuff is a load of crap cos a lot of the time u cnt control it. If u still love d person ur with n u wanna be with em, then you're gunna ignore ur feelings with the other person. when u start acting on those feelings, even if it's not physical, like messaging all the time or phone calls all the time and flirting, then technically its not cheating, but you should be dumped and not waste your current bf/gf's time. im not gunna run through every scenario but anything physical beyond a kiss is definitely cheating n someone should severely hurt you (physically) for it. That whole friendship holding hands stuff....... i dno depends on how u interpret it. my gf n her best frend was like that n i told her that i thought she had feelings for him, she obviously denied it. i gave her a chance then bout 6 months later we broke up n 4 weeks after that she was with him.... go figure.
Anyway i don't see why best friends need to hold hands :S hugging..... umm look it can happen wen they say hi n bye but nothing excessive or remotely longer than it should be. i'm saying it straight out now for all the girls, if u got a male best frend n u hug him or are even a little bit touchy (even if its in a friendly way) ur bf's gunna get jealous. don't confront him cos he'll probably deny it but i'm telling he you will and he'll try and hide it for your sake so just take that into account
Loz i know the other guy isn't talk to you but look, i think you need to make a decision as to who you want to be with. But Asylum hit the nail on the head, now the real test begins. A lot of people give up or quit as soon as things get tough, and the problem you have now is the reason for most marriage break ups - apart from cheating. When things get a bit dull n boring instead of working on it, they go find someone that they see as fun and spontaneous which often leads to cheating. But the thing most people forget, is one of the main reasons you're going out with the person is because you found him interesting and fun. So yeh talk to him, spice things up if you have to.... or just do something fun that will both get your hearts racing instead of the usual stay at home movies.
I say talk to him because he might be thinking the same as you, except he's too scared to talk about it like you, but if you n him don't talk about it, you'll both jus slowly drift apart...