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[iambored]

This is a really depressing topic. I don't even feel like posting it.
But what if something happened to your significant other that made them physically or mentally disabled. Including situations where it is so severe that their whole functioning was changed. What would you do?

 

[FoodForThought]

This is a really depressing topic. I don't even feel like posting it.
But what if something happened to your significant other that made them physically or mentally disabled. Including situations where it is so severe that their whole functioning was changed. What would you do?

that would be pretty shit... i think mentally disabled would be the worst tho... coz if they seem normal it will hurt alot more - if that makes any sence.

Its a pretty hard question... depends on circumstance. Like if they are so mentally diasbled that they no longer have any concept of love or what not - as in they are completely indifferent to whether you stay or go - i would probably find someone else.

Physically disabled wouldnt affect a relationship for me because i focus alot more on personality - i know that sounds wierd but i am shit at getting across how i think...

 

[n2o_lonewolf74]

no one knows what they would do, until they are actually faced with the situation.
its all good to say you'll do this & that, but its not the same as being there faced with the decision

 

[OZGIRL86]

no one knows what they would do, until they are actually faced with the situation.
its all good to say you'll do this & that, but its not the same as being there faced with the decision

I agree, honestly I have no idea on what I'd do.

 

[iambored]

I agree as well. You're meant to be there for them through everything. I would be so upset if something like that happened to me and a partner left me, that's the last thing you need, ever, after something like that has happened.

But damn, your whole life would change, depending on what happened to them, what you thought your future would be with them would be shattered.

If it was after marriage and kids, obviously nothing would change. But being young, not married, with your life ahead of you, it would be one of the hardest things to go through.

 

[KeypadSDM]

I'd force them into my DS and SM fantasies. It's not like they know any better.

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DS + SM = SDM

LOLOL kekekeke!!!!!!1one
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FOCUS: Seriously though, wouldn't this debilitating thing change them as a person. Are they still the same person you loved before?

If not, why shouldn't you leave them?

(This is for the mental case, if it's a physical case then the love should still be there. If you truly cared for them that is. It's a good test to see if you just wanted to "Tap that", or really loved them).

 

[Ktulu-Spiral]

I'd start up my own internet porn site. Especially if she was mentally disabled.

 

[AsyLum]

This is a really depressing topic. I don't even feel like posting it.
But what if something happened to your significant other that made them physically or mentally disabled. Including situations where it is so severe that their whole functioning was changed. What would you do?

Its nice to say that i'd stay, but you can't really predict what'll happen in situations like that can you

 

[malkin86]

that would be pretty shit... i think mentally disabled would be the worst tho... coz if they seem normal it will hurt alot more - if that makes any sence.

Its a pretty hard question... depends on circumstance. Like if they are so mentally diasbled that they no longer have any concept of love or what not - as in they are completely indifferent to whether you stay or go - i would probably find someone else.

Physically disabled wouldnt affect a relationship for me because i focus alot more on personality - i know that sounds wierd but i am shit at getting across how i think...

A mentally disabled person may or may not 'seem normal' to look at.

Physical disability may affect a relationship for you - you may need to do more stuff for her, she'll get more tired sooner, to say nothing of the adjustment period from being 'normal' to being 'an acquired'. It could really change your perception of yourself, and how you interact with the world, to lose parts of your functioning.

 

[zlks]

KeypadSDM: thats like two times ive seen you use the "humour" tags. anyway you do know in HTML a tag actually opens like this <tag> and ends like this </tag> not the other way round as you seem to be doing...

 

[bernz]

If it was after marriage and kids, obviously nothing would change. But being young, not married, with your life ahead of you, it would be one of the hardest things to go through.

As if nothing would change! You'd be short a parent... at least, if the damage was mental... and a lot. Physical might impair you as a team of parents also.

Anyway, this is a scary and depressing thread. My bf thought about it ages ago. He values his mind over everything... And he scared himself thinking I'd leave him if something like that changed who he is. I might feel obliged to stick around and help take care of him... Ideally, I'd like to stick around and take care of him, obligated or not, but you never know until it happens - and I hope to God it never does.

 

[azzie]

this is another "well right now i would..."
physical disability- I don't see the big deal with this, wheelchair or whatever, I could still relate to my partner. I think it would be harder on them though, with the lack of mobility, choices etc etc
mental disability- this one's tough. i'd still love him and care for him and be there, i wouldnt find someone else and just run off. but it would be so hard to come to grips with it, and it would be devistating seeing the other person suffer. as bernz said, this would be more of a "parenting" relationship between me and him rather than a romantic one. fingers crossed it never happens!

 

[santaslayer]

I'd force them into my DS and SM fantasies. It's not like they know any better.

</humour>
DS + SM = SDM

LOLOL kekekeke!!!!!!1one
<humour>

FOCUS: Seriously though, wouldn't this debilitating thing change them as a person. Are they still the same person you loved before?

If not, why shouldn't you leave them?

(This is for the mental case, if it's a physical case then the love should still be there. If you truly cared for them that is. It's a good test to see if you just wanted to "Tap that", or really loved them).

All jokes aside, I agree.

 

[FoodForThought]

no one knows what they would do, until they are actually faced with the situation.
its all good to say you'll do this & that, but its not the same as being there faced with the decision

This whole thread is purely hypothetical... and i even said a couple of times in my reply 'it depends'. I basically judged it on how i react to everyday people i meet.

For physical disability, i know people well who are wheelchair bound, no arm and other guy with no fingers on one hand. Beyond the usually thinking once or twice 'shit, that must be fucking annoying' i pay no attention to it.

As for mentally disabled people, it depends how bad. I personally know no one who is mentally disabled, but you need quite a few on the trains. It really depends on how bad it is and what it is they do. Like coming home from school once, a lady asked us to leave the carriage because we were saying things about her, cept noone had said a word since she got on the train. I couldnt deal with that, because she has obviously lost the plot, so i dont think she would even recognise a partner gone.

But then, there are those people who have like a really late down syndrome thing, so they look absolutely 100%, but their speech and thinking is that of a 10yr old. I wouldnt have as much of a problem with that, because they still think straight - it might be hard to carry an interesting conversation on your part - but there would be no wierd happenings like the train incident.

Again, all is hypothetical...

 

[iambored]

As if nothing would change!

I mean nothing would change as in, I am 99.99% sure I would stay with them. A lot would change in day to day life.

 

[Smokey_22]

This is a really depressing topic. I don't even feel like posting it.
But what if something happened to your significant other that made them physically or mentally disabled. Including situations where it is so severe that their whole functioning was changed. What would you do?

Mate are you a pessimist?

 

[iambored]

lol no, I got the idea off a few things, including the thread about a partner dying. i don't mean to be pessimistic, just realistic in that it could happen to anyone.

 

[pmr_123]

i'd like to think that i'd stay with my bf and support him through anything, but i really don't know, it would depend on the circumstances...
i defeintely wouldn't be dating for a while, i think i'd lock myself in my room and just cry

 

[james_chappo]

I'd like to think i'd stay with her. But what if it changed her as a person so that she was no longer the person I'd fallen in love with.....it's a tough one. All I know is that i'd do everything in my power to help her and stay with her.

 

[flipsyde]

I agree that its all Hypothetical. You'd probably react totally differnet to what you say. But lets just Hypothetically say that I were faced with this challenge. If it were a mental thing, depending I mean the mental thing cn simply mean that they have certain emotional problems, it doesnt change them as a person. Howvere if it changed them as a person and I didn tnlove them anymore then I shouldnt have to stay with someone who I dont love. If there were kids involved I would do my best to make it work though.. but in the end I dont think it would.

If it were a physical thing, there would be no reason for me to leave them because as someone said^^ up there I look at the personalities, physical looks dont mean much to me at all, and as loong as they can continue to be the loving caring person that I fell in love with then I see no reason to leave them.

and thats my 2 cents