What's Cheating? (2 Viewers)

[datAsianGuy]

id love them, forgive them, make sure they still love me, and keep on lovin. If they still arent there for lovin, keep lovin, but let go... cry myself a river, then build a bridge over the river and get over it! simple.... relationships are easy, the key is the EL word.

 

[datAsianGuy]

even if i really really loved him, it'd be obvious to me that he doesn't feel the same way. if that person really loved and cared about you, then why would they want to hurt you (by cheating?)

i've talked to people who have cheated, some who have regretted and others who couldnt' give a shit, and they've said that it's easy to get caught up in the moment. i guess i won't know unless it actually happens to me (ie, i get "caught up in the moment").

hmm yeah... but normally being "caught up in the moment" so to speak, is normally a sign of zero self control and in a guys case; a real thinking with the dick... and in the girls case... well... just not thinking at all

 

[Not-That-Bright]

even if i really really loved him, it'd be obvious to me that he doesn't feel the same way. if that person really loved and cared about you, then why would they want to hurt you (by cheating?)

I think alot of people are softer than that when they're in love, and thats why alot of people get hurt and over over.

 

[hipPo3]

would flirting count as cheating ?
also, is leading on a guy/girl counted as cheating ?

im curious .. cheating generally means the partner wants something more they havent had with you, so if a girl/guy leads on someone else (like not spending time with you much) would it count as cheating ?

 

[jooobl]

if you are feeling guilty about your actions - your cheating

if you or your significant other gets hurt by your actions - your cheating


cheating is baaaaaad mmkay

 

[pRiNCesS..!!]

so you can get away with flirting and sleeping with another guy (even though you would "never cheat on him"), but your boyfriend can't kiss girls on the cheek hello?


anyway, to me, anything more than hugs and friendly pecks - that is intentional - is cheating.

No..its not like that at all! what i was saying is that people might some things are really innocent, whereas thier partner might see it as something more than that. And i meant it when i said id never cheat in him, i didnt say anything about thinking what i did was okay because it wasnt, it was so so wrong, and if i could take back anything ive ever done, that would be it, and im not someone who regrets things.
I am not a jealous girlfriend and i dont care if he looked at another girl and thinks she is hot or whatever, he is a boy, and im sure there are plenty of girls that he is attracted to, and i cant get the shits about that, he is only looking. I was saying that if i saw an old friend that is a boy and i gave him a peck on the cheek i wouldnt want my bf to get upset about that because there is no reason for him to be worried. If he kissed another chick on the cheek, and i didnt know her, i would be a bit jealous, naturally, but thats if i didnt already know her. If he wants to have friends that are girls well thats his decision, and there is no need for me to get angry.

 

[bernz]

I define cheating as actively and consciously pursuing someone else (whether it be with sexual or amorous intent) while you're already in a relationship. If my boyfriend cheated on me, I'd dump his sorry ass -- I don't deserve to be cheated on, so if he does cheat on me, he doesn't deserve me.

 

[llamalope]

cheating - deliberately flirting with somebody else, fantasising about or liking another person that you come in to contact with (i exclude celebrities, but for instance if you fantasised about your bf's best friend that would be pretty bad), sending dirty sms to somebody other than your partner, kissing, touching, and anyhing pertaining to foreplay and sex

 

[Kaiser Zero]

Stick to the 2nd set of standards aye..

 

[Ranger Stacie]

i define cheating as anything youd do when your bf/gf wasnt around that you wouldnt want them to know about..

 

[i-like-grapes!!]

I really dont think you can define it becos it changes with each different new person ur with.The obvious things like sex n ful on pashing some guy wud count but i hav no problem with my bf touching another girls boobs jokingly but the next girl hes with mite kill him if he tried.Like my ex 'caught' me in a swag sleeping with a friend ive had since kindy n chucked a shit but my new bf knows were friends n is cool.So it really depends on how the other half defines cheating so find out before u push it!!!!

 

[llamalope]

i define cheating as anything youd do when your bf/gf wasnt around that you wouldnt want them to know about..

spot on!

have u been watching dr Phill?

 

[AsyLum]

i define cheating as anything youd do when your bf/gf wasnt around that you wouldnt want them to know about..

but that would involve stuff like getting your dog to lick your balls and we know thats not cheating!

 

[ElGronko]

i define cheating as anything youd do when your bf/gf wasnt around that you wouldnt want them to know about..

Picking your nose?

 

[Liberal Scum]

i define cheating as anything youd do when your bf/gf wasnt around that you wouldnt want them to know about..

So that means wanking over midget porn is cheating?

 

[stazi]

Not sure if there's been a forum like this before but what do you define cheating as?? Touching? Kissing? Sex? Oral sex? Something else? And what would you do if your gf/bf cheated on you?

Anal .

 

[pRiNCesS..!!]

Hey yeah I love double standards hey.

I pretty much read that as

"I can do whatever the fuck I want because I've got the moral high ground but hell if my boyfriend even realises other girls exist, I will mutliate him, mutilate him with my SERIOSLY open attitude."

Nice double standards.

NO..nonono!i didnt mean it like "i can do wateva i want, weneva i want but my bf has a strict set of rules and he is gone if he breaks any!'...i meant that if he was flirting with another girl or wateva, id be jealous but i would have no right to get cranky at him for it, and i wouldnt! I have cheated on him once, and i would never do it again, because it hurts like nothing else knwing how much u hurt them. My bf has done his fair share of stuffing round, so its not the way u guys think, i didnt mean to say it how i did..maybe i shoul try changin my name from princess, that doesnt seem to help me much wen i gots a problem.

 

[llamalope]

I define cheating as something intentional. Which brings up the question, if you kiss someone while drunk, does that count as intentional?

Oh I have a question, is kissing someone who is gay, cheating?

yes... kissing somebody gay is cheating.... unless the gay guy is your bf (hey... it happens folks...)

and drunkenness is absolutely no excuse for any cheating-esque activities.

 

[stazi]

i think drunkenness is an excuse. however, one shouldnt be forgiven for cheating drunk. none the less, its better to cheat drunk than sober.

 

[Skeeta]

I define cheating as something intentional. Which brings up the question, if you kiss someone while drunk, does that count as intentional?

Oh I have a question, is kissing someone who is gay, cheating?

yes its cheating when drunk. You still do have intention when drunk. For example, you STILL wouldnt do something outrageous like have sex with a relative (mother or father) when drunk, because you KNOW that it is sick and wrong. therefore you must be under some sort of control over your body.

and about the gay thing. are you a female kissing a guy who is gay? or are you a female kissing another gay female?