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sup dudes and dudettes

we have this discussion everyday, whether to invite a girl from school or out of school..? Or if to invite a guy out of school for any girls out there.
i guess you'd probably want to say ur farewells to everybody from school, cry with them, drink with them.. laugh with them. Instead of staying with your close friend all night cos they might not know anyone. otherwise u guys might have different ideas

what do u all think??
 

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Interesting question.
It really depends on how much contact you have with people from outside of your school. I think the main point should be not to just invite someone from your school just because you "can't" invite someone from outside of the school, or V V. I'd say that inviting someone from outside of your school because you 'like' them though wouldn't be the best idea. You will either spend your night paying too much attention to them trying to impress them and missing out on celebrating finishing your schooling with all your school mates, or too much time not paying attention to them and ruining your chances with them, or trying to juggle the two and failing miserably on all accounts (sounds like HSC!).
Personally, I'm inviting someone that I'm really good friends with and we've been friends and in the same group since year 7. Feelings there? Probably. Going to expand them before schools over? Most likely not.
Just enjoy your time, it is after all a celebration of the people who you've spent the last 6 years with, finishing off your schooling career. You probably will see some of them out at some time or another. But there will be people that you will never see or talk to again...
 
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^ this is one of the reasons me and my girlfriends all decided to go solo to our formal so we could spend quality time together.

We went to an all-girl's high school though... I guess taking a friend from the same co-ed school is about the same thing.

Ultimately I think it boils down to which one would be more fun - would the outside-of-school friend still mesh well with your school friends? If yes, then that's cool. If not, then maybe take the friend from school.
 

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we werent allowed to take anyone from out of school (co-ed school though)

so i took one of my guy buddies at school. It wasnt really a big deal, it was just for photos, limo's etc.
 

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what's the point of taking someone from the same school. They're gonna be there anyway... :S
 

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YBK said:
what's the point of taking someone from the same school. They're gonna be there anyway... :S
But is there a point in inviting someone whos from a different school? Your formal should be a time to celebrate with the people who you've been to school with for the last X years that you've finally all completed the system.
Hell if you want a mate from another school to come along with ya, just invite them to the after party! (Which they are most likely to be there anyway)
 

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yeah lions_fist has a point there
 

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yeh we were only allowed people from our own school :(*
 

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We were allowed to take anyone we want as long as they aint too old lol and they should adhere to our rules..well school formal rules that is. Personally i took my then girlfriend to my formal and I was still able to celebrate with my mates. Of course I was with her whole night but that didnt bother me one bit. She wanted to meet my mates anyway so that made my night alot easier not to mention we became the main conversation starter for some people
 

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im strictly for the 'same school' option.

Reason, if one person takes someone from out of school, then everyone does. And with my school it would have been a problem because we had a few um well bimbos, like typical teenybopper leb loving wog girls (u get the point) and if they bought fags who would start shit etc than its shit for the whole grade. Plus it's supposed to be a farewell for everyone who is in the grade, to spend together etc. It just doesn't seem right to have outside people.
 

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hiphophooray123 said:
im strictly for the 'same school' option.

Reason, if one person takes someone from out of school, then everyone does. And with my school it would have been a problem because we had a few um well bimbos, like typical teenybopper leb loving wog girls (u get the point) and if they bought fags who would start shit etc than its shit for the whole grade. Plus it's supposed to be a farewell for everyone who is in the grade, to spend together etc. It just doesn't seem right to have outside people.
qft x100
 

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Lions_Fist said:
But is there a point in inviting someone whos from a different school? Your formal should be a time to celebrate with the people who you've been to school with for the last X years that you've finally all completed the system.
Hell if you want a mate from another school to come along with ya, just invite them to the after party! (Which they are most likely to be there anyway)
no but im just saying inviting anyone in that case is pointless.
 

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Does it really matter.. in theory one should be spending most time talking to other people and not who they arrived with.

If you invite someone from outside, then they better know a few people at the formal or they need to be good at socialising.. else you are obliged to stay with them for most of the night.

No outsider rule is shit... I hated it 3 years ago...
 

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mm, it's okay to invite someone from outside if they are comfortable with your friends, like if they've met on a couple of previous occassions, or you have no problem spending your night baby sitting them, if that isnt the case, then it can easily ruin your night - you cant hang with your mates and celebrate what you've been through together because you're too busy making sure your date has a good time. i wouldnt bother, after all, if they're not from your school and you already make the effort to see them, you're gonna see them plenty after school ends, whereas it might be your last chance to see ppl from your own school, it's certainly your last chance to hang out as a year, so just bring em to the after party but leave the formal alone.
 

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Well my school was a guy's school... so we kinda have to. Even though we have a girl's school next door I invited a girl I knew from tutoring. Some schools don't allow you to invite people from outside.
 

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lengy said:
Some schools don't allow you to invite people from outside.
yeah mine doesnt even let us take people in other grades... in a way i guess its good because as many have said above you spend time with only your grade and its a celebration of the end of being together jabba jabba....but sometimes it would be nice to take someone outside....i can see both sides of the argument though...
 
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hiphophooray123 said:
im strictly for the 'same school' option.

Reason, if one person takes someone from out of school, then everyone does. And with my school it would have been a problem because we had a few um well bimbos, like typical teenybopper leb loving wog girls (u get the point) and if they bought fags who would start shit etc than its shit for the whole grade. Plus it's supposed to be a farewell for everyone who is in the grade, to spend together etc. It just doesn't seem right to have outside people.
This may have just been my school, but my grade didn't get along well as a whole. So by general consensus everyone went solo or picked a partner from outside - whichever would mean that the given group would have the most enjoyable evening. :)
 

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I'm taking three people to my formal. Two of them are ex students that really wanted to go, so it won't be a problem taking them because they already know everyone. The third person i am taking is my girlfriend, and she goes to my school (different grades) so she knows all of my friends anyway so it should be fine :)

I don't think there is a problem taking dates from outside the school, as long as you don't have to babysit them the whole time.
 

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i go to a single sex school and we are allowed to invite anyone we want.....the catch is u just have to put your partner's name on the formal permission slip and get your parents to sign it....

im a loser....im bringing noone to my formal LOL
 

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