Hey, there's a difference between being a non pushy parent and not parenting at all. I think 0.1% is quite rich. I have many friends, similar style of parenting to mine that have great academic, music, sport etc. results and social skills. My parents never put pressure on me and supported my interest.There's a difference to forcing a child to "succeed" at school and neglecting their academics completely. Neglecting their academics include discouraging academic activity/work, not reading with when they are young etc. Many people with pushy parents have inadequacy issues because they feel they don't measure up. I've seen it manifest in the form of OCD, low self esteem, mental breakdowns, depression or eating disorders. I'll offer up an older example too, one who's done their HSC with same parenting style as I. My sister received a UAI of around 97. She was VERY successful in university receiving many accolades. She's studied at Australian unis and overseas unis. She's lived and worked in Australia and overseas. I much prefer to be self driven and do things for my sense of achievement only, instead of being forced to do stuff. I know people with non pushy parents receive higher ATAR's too.
You say you support the more Asian style? Is this the style you were raised in? Because I've seen you posting around these boards Shadow, and you seem extremely socially awkward. All those posts about been unable to talk to a girl? And also you seem to have obsessive mannerisms. I'm not sure those are positive attributes to attribute to their upbringing. Fostering social skills in a child is a part of parenting too you know.
I found it absolutely absurd that the children weren't allowed playdates in that article. Such restrictive lifestyle will never allow the kids to make their own choices and understand their own consequences. Bedtimes, controlled screentimes, extremely controlled social activity can all be tools to hinder a child's ability to lean life experience.
