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I went to tutor a few days ago and ever since I saw one guy there I CANT GET HIM OUT OF MY HEAD!

I don't even know him, and it only happens when I see him. He's not extremely attractive. What is wrong with me?
I want to do well in my half yearlies but I can't stop thinking about him and there's no way I can talk to him because he is not in my class. Please please help!! I don't want to like him but I can't help not.
Whenever I see him I get really nervous and my stomach feels like butterflies so badly and it's so uncomfortable. And I get goosebumps on my hands and my face feels hot :( :(
should I lock myself up in a room and not go out anywhere??? I can't help this!!
Oh god ^ that sounds so immature, but it's true, help!!
 

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I went to tutor a few days ago and ever since I saw one guy there I CANT GET HIM OUT OF MY HEAD!

I don't even know him, and it only happens when I see him. He's not extremely attractive. What is wrong with me?
I want to do well in my half yearlies but I can't stop thinking about him and there's no way I can talk to him because he is not in my class. Please please help!! I don't want to like him but I can't help not.
Whenever I see him I get really nervous and my stomach feels like butterflies so badly and it's so uncomfortable. And I get goosebumps on my hands and my face feels hot :( :(
should I lock myself up in a room and not go out anywhere??? I can't help this!!
Oh god ^ that sounds so immature, but it's true, help!!
dw there was this hot blonde girl in my economics lecture once


about four weeks later, i was busy eating this lovely sandwich and then out of my periphery i see this girl

and for some reason

i turn around and it's her

and i can't help but stare

i'm not checking her out or anything - like, my infatuation is pure



and then she walked behind a wall

and then i realised what i was doing

and then i continued eating the sandwich that another bos-er stole for me

but i felt bad :(
 

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you understand me :)

But what can I do???????? He's in my mind even now I'm thinking. My head is spinning, he's just soo appealing to me. dO YOU think I should approach him next time? And randomly introduce myself? Oh my god I need help! Has anyone else been in this situation and wat did you do? He is just so god damn appealing to me and I don't know why. I find him so cute he walked out of class with his friend and was wearing such a cute shirt which his mum probably bought for him. Ok no mabe that's a stupid representation, but he just looked so innocent and like he's living life and everything. Little does he knbow that there is one girl who is absolutely CRAZY about him and would do anything for him. Even though it's infatuation I don't know!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WHY
 

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And if you are the guy who happens to see this, then please do approach me :) As I am completely gutless, but obsessed with you.
 

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you understand me :)

But what can I do???????? He's in my mind even now I'm thinking. My head is spinning, he's just soo appealing to me. dO YOU think I should approach him next time? And randomly introduce myself? Oh my god I need help! Has anyone else been in this situation and wat did you do? He is just so god damn appealing to me and I don't know why. I find him so cute he walked out of class with his friend and was wearing such a cute shirt which his mum probably bought for him. Ok no mabe that's a stupid representation, but he just looked so innocent and like he's living life and everything. Little does he knbow that there is one girl who is absolutely CRAZY about him and would do anything for him. Even though it's infatuation I don't know!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WHY
uhh you should probably flirt with him and hopes he gets the picture
 

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But how should I start it off? Should I introduce myself? I don't want him to think that I'm talking to him only for flirting! I really want to get to know him first. But if I just approach him, he'll freak out! And he walks straight out of his class to home so I will have to become an obstacle but then my class starts after his in a different room so I am in such a bad position. I realllly like him for some reason.
 

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But how should I start it off? Should I introduce myself? I don't want him to think that I'm talking to him only for flirting! I really want to get to know him first. But if I just approach him, he'll freak out! And he walks straight out of his class to home so I will have to become an obstacle but then my class starts after his in a different room so I am in such a bad position. I realllly like him for some reason.
story of my life
 

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umm..well i used to hav a crush on this guy.. we catch the same bus and stuff and i already had him as a friend on fb (but we never spoke) so one day, being the weirdo that I am, decided to message him out of the blue while he was online. Turns out our conversation lasted hours. anyway.. i started to go cray over the guy. Like i thought he was the sweetest and kindest and cutest guy ever. and everytime i saw him i felt like id blush and yeah, it was kinda a really sad infatuation for him. then my friends told him i liked him T_T that kinda killed everything..because they started bringing him up all the time and it got kinda annoying. i still to this day do not know if he likes me back, because guys confuse me (he said to my friend that he found me pretty and cool) but now me and him are just pretty close friends. :L we talk a lot now :p I'm kinda glad that i spoke to him that day on fb. I mean thinking about it now, even though at the time i really wanted to be with him, i figured he makes a better friend than a boyfriend..like if he did become my bf and we broke up, our friendship could be over and i don't want to lose him as a friend.

maybe start off smiling or saying hi or something when you see the guy. you never know, he may start up a conversation with you.. if you're ever in a situation where you two are somewhere alone..try to make small talk, idk... i don't think he will think you're talking just to flirt. :) Just try to say hi or something at first :p
i know its hard to get over guys...especially ones you find it hard to talk to..... bc they're always in the back of your mind somehow and it gets bothering when you want to talk or get to know them but just don't know how..

.....I'm in a sad situation at the moment.
theres this guy...who works at JBIHFI....hes so sweet...and he's hot......and he seems maybe 2 years older than me at most? idk. anyway.........I CANT GET HIM OUT OF MY HEAD. its driving me crazy....i think i need help or something. Everytime i go there and i see him i get butterflies or my hands start trembling a bit and i get flustered T_T but he's so cute...and today OMG..i was about to walk in and he was standing on the right side of the entrance ( its usually where he stands) and he was chatting to a coworker....I was going to go in on the left side of the entrance...he moved over to that side when he saw me coming up to the store...and started fixing his fringe in a really cute way (he has this really hot emo hair) and then he greeted me as i walked in and smiled and as i moved further into the store he went back over to the other side where he was before...it was so cute..but i think i have like no chance with him :( :( idk what to do :| i cant get him out of my head though...i just cant. I've been like this for over a year now i think T_T
 
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umm..well i used to hav a crush on this guy.. we catch the same bus and stuff and i already had him as a friend on fb (but we never spoke) so one day, being the weirdo that I am, decided to message him out of the blue while he was online. Turns out our conversation lasted hours. anyway.. i started to go cray over the guy. Like i thought he was the sweetest and kindest and cutest guy ever. and everytime i saw him i felt like id blush and yeah, it was kinda a really sad infatuation for him. then my friends told him i liked him T_T that kinda killed everything..because they started bringing him up all the time and it got kinda annoying. i still to this day do not know if he likes me back, because guys confuse me (he said to my friend that he found me pretty and cool) but now me and him are just pretty close friends. :L we talk a lot now :p I'm kinda glad that i spoke to him that day on fb. I mean thinking about it now, even though at the time i really wanted to be with him, i figured he makes a better friend than a boyfriend..like if he did become my bf and we broke up, our friendship could be over and i don't want to lose him as a friend.

maybe start off smiling or saying hi or something when you see the guy. you never know, he may start up a conversation with you.. if you're ever in a situation where you two are somewhere alone..try to make small talk, idk... i don't think he will think you're talking just to flirt. :) Just try to say hi or something at first :p
i know its hard to get over guys...especially ones you find it hard to talk to..... bc they're always in the back of your mind somehow and it gets bothering when you want to talk or get to know them but just don't know how..

.....I'm in a sad situation at the moment.
theres this guy...who works at JBIHFI....hes so sweet...and he's hot......and he seems maybe 2 years older than me at most? idk. anyway.........I CANT GET HIM OUT OF MY HEAD. its driving me crazy....i think i need help or something. Everytime i go there and i see him i get butterflies or my hands start trembling a bit and i get flustered T_T but he's so cute...and today OMG..i was about to walk in and he was standing on the right side of the entrance ( its usually where he stands) and he was chatting to a coworker....I was going to go in on the left side of the entrance...he moved over to that side when he saw me coming up to the store...and started fixing his fringe in a really cute way (he has this really hot emo hair) and then he greeted me as i walked in and smiled and as i moved further into the store he went back over to the other side where he was before...it was so cute..but i think i have like no chance with him :( :( idk what to do :| i cant get him out of my head though...i just cant. I've been like this for over a year now i think T_T
ohhhhh honey I feel you COMPLETELY <3

Your first situation worked out great! Maybe I should try it, but it's so scary because if I get butterflies when I see him, I WONDER what would happen if I spoke to him :( :(

Peoples both of us need some help!

Ooooh he's emo? Wow that's nice I'm goth haha. But I'm not too fond of goth guys for some reason. I love those innocent types of guys who are smart and yeah. Like the one I described. I have this weird thing of predicted what people are going to be like, and I can see right through him that he's so innocent and sweet!

I'm sure you have a chance with him! Be brae, unlike me. I'm really quiet, I DON't know how I'll manage this.
 

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Oh I forgot to mention to you guys!! One day Iw as walking into class and he had already come out and he saw me and looked at me for a good 3 seconds I think. ok i'm probably making this seem like such a big thing. but guys he saw me! he knows that I exist! but after that I don't think he saw me because I would sit at the other end so I can watch him and the way he walks and smiles. it's so nice :)
 

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Look, if you approach him, there's very little chance he'll freak out, it might be random, but I'm sure he'll stay to chat with you even if it's a abit. Is this the first time something like this happened to you? You sound awfully troubled about this. As suggested the best way is to approach him randomly if you want to feel calm sooner rather then later, otherwise It might take a while(or never) for a chance to appear, sometimes you just have to make it yourself :/
 

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When you put someone on a pedestal, that might ruin it for you..because even if he's had interest in your at first, it may be gone once they know you're putting the person on a pedestal.
 

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ohh true. Do boys like gothic girls? I've toned down on my goth look, like I wear no makeup, but I wear a lot of black. Mayeb i'll change my clothing style to see if it makes him notice me again.
 

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But bongoli! how can I "just" say hi. Ok tell me what would you do if a random girl came up to you and said hi?
I must admit, now that I think of it, some guys in the past have randomly came up to me and said hi and I didn't think it was werid. maybe I should try it then
 

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ohh true. Do boys like gothic girls? I've toned down on my goth look, like I wear no makeup, but I wear a lot of black. Mayeb i'll change my clothing style to see if it makes him notice me again.
Probably more of a niche area,in terms of "like", but I'm sure there's many who don't mind.
 

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