yeah your right, the world is a fucked up place. i preach realism, not optimism, we shouldnt ignore that fact, but i dont think it is that strong of a fact..plently of men respect women and for those scumbagsthat dont, its not exactly their attitudes to women that is the problem but more their attitude to life. Society today seems to promote looking out for number 1 alot more than it used to. That translates to the aforementioned scumbags outlook on life, who think something along the lines of " Well she agreed, and i dont give a fuck about her afterwards, so iam just going to do what gives me the most pleasure and not look out for her wellbeing"
Its like that guy, forget his name, he goes around to schools and teaches girls how to defend themselves, useful verbal attacks to use to put down upfront men [ i remember somethign about the man is a dog imagery] and how to escape from holds, to ight back in rape situations etc... thats realism, there is a problem, he ackowledges it and teaches girls how to deal with it.
I think that any self respecting woman Should try to anticipate and prevent the "pathetic actions of others", not account for it. its one thing to avoid danger and another to excuse those who cause it, but the fact remains that there IS a danger and those worldly wise enough to recognise it should take steps to avoid it... which i give credit, alot do... e.g at clubs you dont see women drinking from unatended glasses again very often.